Infidelity is one of the leading cause of divorce in the modern society. Cases of infidelity have increased exponentially in the recent past and spouses are suffering from marital insecurity. Most marriages are ticking time bombs. In some cases, insecurities in marriage are confirmed and years of work suddenly crumble down within a day or less. Most cases of infidelity can be avoided through communication and mutual understanding. Recent studies have revealed that almost half of the times that men cheated on their wives, they did it with their house helps. These cases have become so common that some women now consider house maids serious threats to their marriages. Let’s look at some of the reasons why this happens.
1. Lack of sexual satisfaction.
We are all busy. Often too busy to remember and take care of all responsibilities heaped upon us. This is especially true for the working woman and she may fail to meet her husband’s sexual needs. This is a major threat to any relationship since intimacy preserves the couple’s emotional ties. No husband will be contented in a marriage without sexual satisfaction and although they may pretend to be okay, they will eventually be compelled to seek extra-marital affairs. The house help becomes an easy target.
2. Sexual indiscipline.
Let us just put this plain and simple, most men lack sexual discipline and are willing to sleep with any woman they can lay their hands on. They have good, loving wives and excellent families but their lustrous desires are untamed. It is difficult to explain their reasons, if they have any. Such husbands will pounce on the house help, or any other female that comes across, any time the chance arises.
3. Spirit of adventure.
This may sound out of place but some men have some outright evil fantasies and are willing to cross boundaries to satisfy them. They never want to settle down, even after marriage. To them, everything is a big game and they love to play. These type of husbands are unable or unwilling to tame their desires and will end up risking it all for little thrills.
4. Absentee wives.
Men are generally attracted to the woman’s aspect of home keeping. In modern households, the wives are rarely home as they are busy with work or business. The maids are left to take care of the man of the house. The man may then naturally develop some sort of fondness to the maid. This fondness, if not consciously watched, may lead to a shift of the man’s erotic attention from the wife to the maid.
5. Immoral maids.
Some house helps may just be out to get their employers. The motives behind such moves may be stupid and petty, like getting satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment from sleeping with the boss. Some maids also use sex as a means to extort money from their male bosses. Since such maids have plenty of time to be around their targets, seduction is usually easy and highly effective.
6. Lack of self-control.
Most men lack self-control and cannot handle their sexual excitement effectively. Chances of such men sleeping with their maids is high since as they spend time around them, some sexually arousing situations are bound to occur. this is mainly because most household chores require the maid to bend or squat. Some men simply can’t handle the pressure and easily fall into temptations.
These causes can be avoided either by personal effort on the part of the husbands, or by combined effort by the couple. Spouses who freely talk and understand one another without judgement find it easier to conquer infidelity.