By Nelly Nakhero
Anger, range, revenge thoughts, disappointment, stress and hopelessness are the very ticking time bomb to self-destructiveness.
We all get mad, well at least a healthy people get angry when provoked, its okay to be angry. A certain level of anger is a necessary for our survival. It’s a sign of discomfort! Anger becomes an issue when you are having trouble controlling it.
There is a whole lot of things that can trigger anger. And anger issue may be symptoms of other underlying problem like depression or an anxiety disorder known as Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). Anger is a contributing factor to aggressiveness for alcoholics. Anger is also a stage in grieving, and grief can be due to many reasons like death, break up , divorce e.t.c. In some extreme cases anger can be a sign of bipolar disorder.
An anger problem manifests itself in different ways. It is experienced in a number of ways. Outwardly , this is characterized by aggression. This includes shouting, throwing stuff and be warned if not controlled you can punch someone! Another way is expressing anger inwardly where by you direct anger to yourself. It involves self-harm, denying yourself things like basic needs and even negative self-talk. Another type of anger management issue is passive. This involves indirect ways of expressing anger like being sarcastic, making mean remarks and silent treatment; to mention some.
Here are 10 signs that you have anger issues:
ü Blowing up at slightest provocation
- If you are you a type of a person who ends up punching a wall due to poor network connection; be warned this is a red light that you have a problem
ü Anger without a reason
Are you angry for no apparent reason? This is a sign of anger management problem.
ü Intense anger about past events
Feeling extremely angry about past incidences or still angry about someone far in your past is another indication
ü Guarded interactions
If you notice your friends breaking off contact with you or are now more cautious around you could be a sign that they are really trying to not provoke you.
Angry people are usually impatient with people. If you find it hard to wait for people to finish what they are saying before you talk or even if you do, you are not actually listening, that’s a wake up call.
ü Overly sensitive
Are you quick to take offense from others comments? A group of girls laughing behind your back gets under your skin. You have a problem if you are overly hyper vigilant for people to screw up.
Every venom comes from a place of anger. Angry people rant a lot, and literally about almost everything; politics, food, sports even other peoples’ choice of style bothers you.
ü Being cold hearted
Angry people are not so very compassionate. They feel the need to be empathetic but they choose not to. They take so much pleasure in others misfortune and are really quick to punish or condemn others but very reluctant to give an honest praise.
ü Often resort to threats
For instance, If you find yourself dropping a comment in a suggestion box threatening to pour water in the beddings of dining hall prefects if they do not increase the meat count while serving you lunch is definitely a warning sign.
ü Being confronted by other people about your anger
Being told by other people that you might be having trouble managing your anger is clear enough sign. And I think it’s time for you to seek some help from a therapist.
If you find yourself saying “that’s so accurate” on this writing or check listing most of the reasons above I suggest you seek help. Having least control or even no control of your temper can damage your relationships, finances and even your personal growth. Soldier up champion and seek help.